We would never think of going on Face book and posting a photo of ourselves taken on the day we lay all day in bed, crying and pulling the covers over our head. We want to present our best image to others. Often even our closest friends or spouses are not privy to some things that may weigh us down most. Often we just can't talk about them without feeling too revealing or vulnerable. How then, can we get support and understanding without dishing TMI (too much information) or coming across as a complainer or a drag?
My friend recently told me how she was able to communicate a heavy problem in her life to someone she hadn't seen in several months while keeping it light and how that breif synopsis of her dilemma led to an energizing dinner conversation. It helped her feel supported by others and fostered communication that also helped her friends feel connected.
Before going to a social event or even calling a friend you haven't spoken to lately, it helps to think honestly about how you can best summarize the major happenings or inner dilemmas in your life. Pretend you are writing about someone else and jot down a few notes. Perhaps, instead of saying 'I'm out of work' you could say 'I'm looking for a job in marketing,but its challenging these days, and I'd be open to any leads or suggestions'. Other times you can present your situation in a rhetorical question kind of format.
The answer to "how are you?" does not have to be an obligatory or shocked,"fine,good". If you are prepared to answer truthfully, then you will be surprised at the people who are just waiting for someone to have a meaningful exchange.
Anyone have a thought?
Just a thought...
Thanks for reading, Erica
Me in goofy glasses with fake teeth |
The answer to "how are you?" does not have to be an obligatory or shocked,"fine,good". If you are prepared to answer truthfully, then you will be surprised at the people who are just waiting for someone to have a meaningful exchange.
Anyone have a thought?
Just a thought...
Thanks for reading, Erica
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